Why is Getting Started So Difficult?

"Their teacher always has positive things to say—he works hard at school and follows directions. But after school? Complete meltdown. Don't even get me started on homework..."

I frequently hear a version of this from parents. What students are experiencing is called after-school restraint collapse. Your child has been working overtime all day to focus, follow instructions, and manage their differences. By 3 PM, they're emotionally and mentally exhausted.

This can happen to all students, but it is especially apparent for students with processing differences. These children are working twice as hard just to get through a typical school day. So when homework time arrives, their tank is completely depleted.

Step 1: Honor the Need for Downtime

Before jumping into homework, give your child time to decompress. Downtime looks different for everyone! Some students will benefit from activities that release pent-up energy, while others need rest and recovery.

Activities to Release Energy

• Outdoor play or sports

• Jumping on a trampoline

• Dance party!

• Quick bike ride around the block

  
  

Activities for Rest

• Quiet time with dim lighting

• Coloring or puzzles

• Soft music or complete silence

• ⚠️ Avoid overwhelming questions about their day

  
  

Skip the screens during downtime. While tempting, electronics can be overstimulating and make the transition to homework even harder.

💡 Pro Tip: Use a visual timer to ease the transition between downtime and homework.

Step 2: Create a Homework Station

Consistency is your friend. Establish these three habits:

1. Same time daily (when possible)—this builds the habit faster.

2. Designated homework spot—away from TV and distractions.

3. All supplies ready—pencils, paper, calculator, whatever they typically need.

   
   

Avoid the couch or bed for homework. It helps the brain associate this space with focus and learning.

Step 3: Make a Game Plan

Before touching any assignment, spend a few minutes helping your student create a simple checklist. At the beginning of the year, they may need direct guidance through this process.

The Daily Homework Checklist

• Write down a list of every assignment (use their planner or school platform).

• Break large projects into smaller chunks.

• Estimate the time for each task.

• Choose the starting point together.

  
  

Quick Example of Breaking Down Tasks

Instead of "Finish science project," identify the steps:

👉 Read chapter 4 (15 minutes)

👉 Write 3 main points (10 minutes)

👉 Find 2 pictures for the poster (15 minutes)

Step 4: Choose Your Starting Point Wisely

Not all homework is created equal. Help your child pick their first task based on their energy level:

• High energy? Start with the hardest subject.

• Low energy? Begin with something achievable to build confidence.

• Scattered attention? Alternate between preferred and non-preferred tasks.

  
  

Action Plan

This week, focus only on these fundamentals:

🧘‍♀️ Implement 30-60 minutes of productive downtime.

📝 Set up a consistent homework station.

✅ Create a daily checklist together before starting assignments.

Don't worry about perfect execution—you're building new habits, and that takes time.

Additional Strategies for Success

Understanding Learning Styles

Every child learns differently. Some may thrive with visual aids, while others prefer hands-on activities. Take time to explore what works best for your child. This understanding can transform homework time into a more engaging experience.

Incorporating Breaks

Short breaks during homework can enhance focus. After 20-30 minutes of work, encourage your child to take a 5-minute break. This can be a quick stretch, a glass of water, or a brief walk around the room.

Celebrate Small Wins

Recognizing achievements, no matter how small, can boost your child's confidence. Celebrate completed assignments or even the effort put into starting. Positive reinforcement goes a long way in building motivation.

Stay Involved

Your involvement can make a significant difference. Check in on their progress, ask questions, and show interest in what they are learning. This connection fosters a supportive environment.

Seek Professional Help if Needed

If homework struggles persist, consider seeking professional guidance. Tutors or educational therapists can provide tailored strategies that cater to your child's unique needs.

Embrace Flexibility

Life can be unpredictable. If a particular strategy isn't working, don't hesitate to adjust. Flexibility is key to finding what truly helps your child succeed.

Conclusion

Navigating homework challenges can feel overwhelming, but remember, you are not alone. By implementing these strategies, you can create a supportive and productive environment for your child. Together, you can transform homework from a source of stress into an opportunity for growth and learning.

With patience and persistence, you’ll see progress. Your child is capable of great things, and with your support, they can thrive.